2. You have a history of unhealthy relationships.
Maybe in the past, you haven’t been picky enough, and you’ve dated a series of people who didn’t value you or your relationship. They saw you as someone to use, or as the trophy on their arm, or as their personal pot of gold.
Actions to take: Make a list of qualities you want to see in the person you commit to, along with a shortlist of red flags (the ones you’ve learned to recognize). Tell yourself you’re not going to settle for someone who doesn’t have the qualities you’re looking for.